我女兒Candice是《慾望城市》（Sex and the city）的死忠粉絲。也謝謝 她在Sex and the city尚未成為社會文化現象時介紹我認識了它。從此我也就愛上了這部影集。我也曾跟許多年輕人說，要學習現代的生活英文，Sex and the city 是最好的教材。為了學英文而看Sex and the city 是多麼好的藉口。
Sex sells. Vanity sells. Fashion sells. 但Sex and the city的成功卻是它代表了一群獨立，自主，有智慧，有勇氣做真實自己的大都會區新女性的生活態度。它真正的主軸其實仍然是愛情與友情。
這次Sex and the city的故事雖然是標準的Hollywood公式，我仍然很高興看到西方文化對如何做一個真實的自己的態度及方法：
1. Mr Big如何忠於自己對婚禮的堅持及內心的恐懼？
5. Samantha 最後仍然要做真實的自己？
很高興看到?部?影對老化 (aging) 的坦然面對.譬如Carrie 不得不接受要用老花眼鏡，Samantha 的50歲生日。。。
愛是願意原諒，也是願意承擔風險，因為沒有任何人能夠保證未來的任何事。只有願意承擔風險，才能繼續往前走(move on), 也就會有無限的可能出現。
歡迎喜歡Sex and the city的影迷留言，在此跟我分享你的個人獨特觀點及感想。
46 thoughts on “男人，您去看了Sex and the city電影嗎？”
First, I want to congratulate you that you are the few ( 8 out of 43 students ) have either written me an email or left comments on my blog. I am kind of disappointed that not many of your classmates taking action, instead of just being inspired.
I am impressed that you are willing to search my old writings on Sex and the City. I hope you had read all the comments here so you will come up with your own answers.
1. Taiwan’s men, basically, are a bunch of boring people. I will put the blame on our culture. We have put a straight jacket for male since childhood. If a boy likes to dress neat or likes beautiful things ( materialistic or conceptual ), we will consider the boy as weird, abnormal, vanity driven and not dependable with no future to do great thing. Just take a close look on all the personal growth movement or workshop/講座 in Taiwan, you seldom see man there. Where are our men? Luckily, I see a new generation of young men who are more assertive with their inclination and fashion statement. Hopefully, we will see more young men with manners and pay more attention on their fashion statement. ( The world favors those who look neat with good first impression, especially, in a flat world with service/design industry and aesthetic intelligence on the rise. Did you see more handsome Koreans and Japanese young men lately? They are changing with their lifestyle so they can create more ” lifestyle oriented ” new high tech gears or lifestyle products. We will stuck in the engineering mindset products. Let’s face it. Taiwan men are really boring. ( 恨鐵不成鋼) Have you seen any good looking and fashionable politicians in our society? How can you expect them to build a beautiful city with creative lifestyle for our future citizens. Have you been Paris or Denmark? Every men dressed neat with style.
2. Taiwanese men have no idea of being authentic to themselves. Most of Taiwanese men are still kids. This is why they are boring and lack of curiosity to things that they don’t know. Well, as I said before, I still have hope for our younger generation men. This is why I wrote my book with them in mind, not those people who have stuck in the old value and are afraid of showing their feminine side with vulnerability and sensitivity.
This is why I wrote in my book that man need to learn from woman.
Thanks for visiting this old blog.
You must be a special lady.
上個禮拜聽了您的演講, 收穫甚多, 為了完成和朱先生的承諾，便在這有些回饋!
其實在朱先生的書裡也有提到些許兩性的議題（譬如男人應當和女人多學學美學價值觀等），身為一個「女孩」，尚未出社會對於男人女人在社會上的定位尚不是感受那麼深刻，有點好奇為什麼此篇標題會針對「男人」拋出這樣的問題呢？這些Sex and the City所提出的議題若是在男人身上會有什麼樣不同的化學變化呢？抑或是這些議題（譬如做真實的自己）壓根不會發生在男人身上:P？
Love is feel the risk and do it anyway.
比方說 自己所表現出的真實到達了甚麼程度 或未來甚麼時候會做甚麼樣的改變
As you know I have been busy lately.
Don’t let anyone influence you too much. You can always be inspired by what you read, heard or saw. It is a deep philosophy and require a certain degree of maturity to understand this meaning. It is not to be interpreted as arogant or self righteous. It means that we are all equal as living being. Only throught the free and equal spirit, we can be free from the autority or dogmatic conformity.
People who don’t write comments did not mean they did not connect with us. Whatever we do is for those people who are ready and willing to connect with positive attitude.
I always encourage people to write commments though. It is my belief that through engagement in life actively, you will learm more and attain happiness. Happiness is from an engaged life.
Thank you for joining this philosophical discusson. Again, we are not here to change anyone. Only people who want to change can change.
如果我不是”德不孤 必有鄰”或”不遷怒 不貳過”
Just be honest with yourself,
Yes, you are right on.
One of my purposes to have this blog is to find an excuse to connect with people who are ready to leap with faith joining this tribe, either as a most loyal silent partner or a co-creator of this blog.
I really want to see more connection among all readers. Now, it is still two ways dialogue. Some one made a comment and I responded.
As you said so well that one single philosophy for life is dangerous. Please help me to respond if you feel you have something to share on someone else comments. I welcome this horizontal dialogue as long as it is not mean spirit or lack of decency.
Empathy is a term we all learned when we are young in 倫語, however, we never really intentionally practice in our daily life, especially, when we don’t agree with someone’s point.
It is an uphill battle when you try to inspire people to be kind to the mistake people committed and not too self righteous. We should learn not to judge people and lump sum people as a habitual criminal. Most ot the time, people just made a bad or stupid decision.
Thank you, 洋梨, for being a friend to me.
I think you are right.
As you may know that I never claim I am an expert of anything. I just want to share my thoughts with my friends here. It only serves as a way to connect with you all.
I do think there are lots of sufferings in the bad management of our relationship due to our lack of interest in studying how westerners handle relationship.
I wish one day I can be like 老莊. Again, coming to think it again, I don’t think I want to be 老莊. I accept that I am imperfect, even though I want to be a better person every day.
I am passionate with life and all the new possibilty that life can bring to us. It is this belief that I live an engaged life so far.
Happiness exists in action with a higher purpse.
It is so nice of you to read my old writings in this blog and start an intelligent conversation here.
I am no Benjamin Zander. However, it is a great honor to be in his league. 🙂
Thank you for your kind words.
Actually, you are contributing this blog with your regular visits and comments you made.
It is your blog as well as mine. We are all here to creage this space so we don’t feel alone in our truth seeking journey.
I do have shining eyes.
Thank you for all those things you have done.You are contributing my life with your blog.
Keep on being a good conductor,
Actually, I really don’t mind people’s criticism on SATC. I also never want to defend SATC or change these people’s negative comments on SATC.
Please note the titel of this blog. Hey, man, have you seen SATC? I challege Taiwanese man to re-examine their so call manhood. We have a failed generation of men in Taiwan who care less about their inner child or vulnerablility.
I am hoping the new generation men will recognize this femininity side of all men.
Thank you for sharing your insight about this movei. I am all for it.
Thank you for taking time to read my old blog. This is how we connect through your initiative to get to know me through my old blog. All this blog is timeless, at least to me. You are contributing this blog with this sharing.